Explore and evaluate worries using a writing technique that leaves you calmer. Key points Listen to your worries; do not shut them out. Admit whatever is true. At the same time, do not automatically believe a worry. See if the worry stands up to questioning. In a two-column table with rows, write worries in the left column and evaluate them in the right column. Wouldn’t it be great if you could simply tell your brain not to worry? Unfortunately, that doesn’t work. So, let’s q

How keeping the focus on yourself can transform conflict into connection. Key points When conflict arises, the impulse to focus on your partner can block self-awareness. Keeping the focus on yourself shifts attention from blame to accountability. Real repair begins when each partner takes responsibility for their own part. When couples come to us for therapy, they usually want the same thing: fewer fights, less hurt, more harmony. They imagine that the healthiest relationship