How memory gaps may affect relationships for people with BPD. Key points Gaslighting increases the instability of relationships where one or both parties has BPD. The symptom of paranoia may cause those who dissociate to see others as gaslighting them. To avoid gaslighting, it is suggested that loved ones not challenge accusations based on BPD-related dissociative memory gaps. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which efforts are made to make someone feel crazy for be